Non-Violent Communication and Project Design and Proposal Writing

October 17, 2012  –  International Day of Poverty Eradication

Communication for Peace

Sr. Ana Elídia Caffer Neves, SSpS

Sr. Ana Elídia Caffer Neves, SSpS, our resource person from the Province of Brazil North, has a wide range of study and experience in the area of communication.  Her topic today was on “Non-Violent Communication (NVC)”.  She introduced her talk by way of quiet personal reflection on the following points:

  1. —Get in touch with your heart.
  2. —Identify the feelings you have experienced more strongly during this seminar.
  3. —Also identify your main needs during this seminar.
  4. Were your needs satisfied?

Sr. Ana Elídia then proceeded to her presentation entitled “Communication for Peace; Compassionate Communication”.  First she made an important reference to one of the 13th General Chapter directions — “Learning Non-violence”,  then discussed about the Triangle of Violence with its 3 components:

  • Direct violence
  • Cultural Violence
  • Structural Violence

In learning the way of NVC, one has to know the hierarchy of human needs.  Such knowledge is essential to interpersonal communication that holds compassion as its foundation and peace as its goal.  Conceived in the 60’s by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, a psychologist, NVC serves as guide or tool  to resolve conflicts and to develop new social systems that promote partnership and sharing of power.  NVC is also applied in education and in advocating Restorative Justice.  The key to overcome fights and disagreements is in the manner we speak and listen to others.

The images of a jackal (wolf) and a giraffe were used to make a contrast between the aggressive way of achieving our goal, which most people learned from childhood, and the constructive/peace-promoting way.  In the face of  a  heated argument, the giraffe only listens.  Beyond the violent words, it hears the other saying: “please help me”.  With compassion it considers what is happening to the other.

The starting point of NVC is what Dr. Marshall calls “Divine Energy”.  It means to recognize God’s presence in oneself  and in the other.  Conflicts with persons of different opinions and cultures entail cycles of painful emotions.  As an alternative way of facing it, NVC calls for one to speak clearly and honestly.  In doing so, the following should be taken into account:

  1. What did the person do?
  2. How did I feel?
  3. What need of mine was not met?
  4. What do I wish (desire) that this person do for me?

The Goals of NVC:

  • To help us connect with what is alive in us and in others
  • To establish relationships founded on cooperation and compassion.
  • To build relationships from the heart:  giving and receiving so that one’s own life as well as the other’s may be enriched

Some steps in NVC:

  • observe without interpreting
  • identify and express feelings
  • assume responsibility for feelings
  • ask what will enrich life when needs are not met
  • receive and give empathy
  • be compassionate with oneself
  • express anger
  • be interiorly liberated to be able to help others
  • express gratitude

Sr. Ana Elídia concluded her presentation with “Prayer for Peace” that she herself composed.

Powerpoint presentation on Non-violent Communication (click here)


Project Design and Proposal Writing

Sr. Benigilda Ladia, SSpS and Sr. Julie George Kandathinkara, SSpS shared with other participants their knowledge and experience on making project proposals.

Sr. Julie George Kandathinkara, SSpS and Sr. Benigilda Ladia, SSpS

Sr. Benigilda made a connection between proposal-writing and JPIC.   She said that we become voice to the voiceless by making a project proposal in their behalf.  It is one way of trying to concretize our response to commitment to life.  In the project proposal we SEE the situation, we JUDGE it based on Gospel values, and ACT on it according to the these values.

Sr. Julie George presented the Guidelines for Project Proposal, coming from her own experience.  She pointed out that in making the budget, most of the funding agencies require the proponents to give a counterpart.  The importance of conducting a research and obtaining clear data was emphasized.  Sr. Benigilda presented the steps in monitoring and some tools for data collection.

In conclusion, it was stressed that project proposal-making being a technical process, needs a special technical skill.  We may lose our credibility to funding institutions if we do not make it well.  That means losing financial support to our mission work.

Powerpoint presentations on Project Design and Proposal Writing

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